Picking bananas with Abuelito's help

Letters to My Daughter: May 2014 May 19, 2014   0

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Mi cariñito,

I hope you don’t mind… this month’s letter isn’t full of photos of you, but of someone else very important in my life…

As I started to write this letter, your bisabuelito was in intensive care in a hospital in Puerto Rico. I talked a lot with Nana, listened to the worry and sadness in her voice that she couldn’t be there with him and her mami since she is still recuperating from her knee surgery. I felt a little helpless myself and carried much regret…

Abuelito in security uniform

Abuelito in security uniform

Your bisabuelito is such an amazing and interesting person… not without his faults, of course. I don’t want to paint a perfect picture for you, because he isn’t a perfect man… and some of the family will love to remind you of that. I’d rather you hear it now and not be surprised by the revelations later…

Part of the reason he was in the hospital is due to his stubbornness and inability to accept there may be others who know better than he (like the doctors). He has a hard time handling change and not being in control of situations. But what he did do well, very well, was be the father figure I didn’t have while I was young and love me like his immediate own.

With Abuelito in front of a truck

Mami with Abuelito in front of a truck

Back to my regret… You probably remember me telling you Nana moved us to the states when I was 4. So, it used to be I visited mis abuelitos every summer until my 13th birthday. I spent a lot of time with abuelito then, hanging around on the farm. As I moved away from the house and started my own life, I found myself visiting Puerto Rico less and less. Money, time, commitments… they all seemed to get in the way… but I always called often to check in on them.

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Mami with Abuelito and Abuelita

When you were born, though, I was hoping to change the pattern. You made your first visit to Puerto Rico when you were 7 months old. Everyone was so happy to see you… including your bisabuelito.

You with Abuelito

You with Bisabuelito

Yet, we haven’t been back since…

And now I’m wishing we had visited more often… that I had visited more often.

Bisabuelito is fine now though… Nana likes to say he’s like a cat with nine lives… and I’m very grateful for that, but mostly because God said it wasn’t his time just yet.

Picking bananas with Abuelito's help

Picking bananas with Abuelito’s help

So… all of this to say – family is important. Make sure you call and visit them often so you have plenty of good memories when they’re no longer around.

I love you tons, sweetheart.

❤ Mami

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Now, follow the link to the next amazing photographer in our Letters to Our Daughter circle, Lila James of 550 East!

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About the author: Yazmin Wickham

Hi! I am Yazmin, a natural light, lifestyle photographer living in the Atlanta area. I am a Christian, a mother, a wife, a daughter, a friend, a geek and coder. Thank you for stopping by my little slice of the "interwebs"!


  1. Jana says:

    May 19, 2014

    Oh Yazmin - what a beautiful, touching letter! I'm glad to hear he is doing better <3 Reply

  2. Bianca says:

    May 19, 2014

    Beautiful letter and such an important message. Being that we are on the other side of the world from all our family... this reminds me that we are due for some skype dates! So glad to hear your Abuelito is doing better. Reply

  3. Stacy says:

    May 19, 2014

    Such a beautiful letter Yazmin. I'm so happy to hear your Abuelito is feeling better! Reply

  4. Yazmin says:

    May 21, 2014

    Thank you ladies! He's actually taken a turn for the worse, but I'm praying he will hold on and improve. I believe God is still in the business of making miracles. ;)
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